Everything that happens to us happens for a reason. And sometimes, it can be a catalyst for great things to come. Instead of beating yourself up over past heartaches, disappointments, and failures; treat them as learning opportunities and use them as tools for self improvement and success.
When you recognize opportunities for change and decide to take action, the result will be a life filled with success! Read and act on the tips below to begin your journey of self improvement and enjoy the success that will follow:
Realize that you are not a failure
How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU? Failure is a temporary event; not a person. A person can only be a failure if they give up. The first rule of winning is never, never, never give up!
- Accept yourself for who you are
Self-acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty. Despite outward appearance, most “beautiful” people believe they have many flaws. Self-confidence and self-acceptance are far more attractive than mere physical beauty.
Be a sail not an anchor
Don’t let other people drag you down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior. Instead, be there to lift them up. Be like a sail propelling people forward, not an anchor dragging them down.
Treat every mistake as an opportunity to learn and grow
Don’t feel stupid or doomed forever just because you failed at something. There are always other opportunities. If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not improving. Henry Ford said, “Failure is merely an opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” Failure is an inevitable stepping stone to great achievement.
Self improvement is a one day at a time, do-it-to-yourself, do-it-for-yourself process. You can’t change your destination over night, but you can change your direction (Jim Rohn). Be patient and focus on one area of improvement at a time. Remember, scientists say it takes 21 consecutive days of a repeated activity to form a habit.
Self improvement creates character and SUCCESS
Success comes from self-confidence, self appreciation and self-esteem. Make a promise to yourself to always do your best and to always look for ways to improve. Learning and personal development are lifelong processes.
Set and write down meaningful and achievable goals
Self improvement is about continually creating an improved and better YOU. The focus is on you! When setting goals, be sure they are your own. They need to be realistic and achievable, but should also be big enough that they seem just out of reach. They need to make you stretch and venture outside your comfort zone. And most of all, they must be written down!
Little things matter
Sometimes we don’t realize that the little things we do, like a pat on the back, saying “hello”, smiling cheerfully or paying a compliment are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we appreciate the people and things around us, we will be more appreciated.
Just because you are ready to change, doesn’t mean everyone else is
The world is full of people with different values and attitudes. Just because you have a desire and passion to continuously improve, don’t expect others to readily accept and join in your journey. Self improvement is about individual growth; we cannot and should not force others to change.
There is no such thing as ‘overnight success’. Be patient and know that there will be setbacks. To stay motivated and ensure you remain on course, keep a journal and document your successes and the changes you experience along the way. When you feel stuck, look back on your past successes and see how far you have come. Celebrate your achievements; both great and small.
Self improvement is about lifelong learning and discovery. First recognize your desire to change. Then, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn and to experience life. Our family, teachers, friends, co-workers, neighbors… they all have something to teach us. When we open our hearts and minds to self improvement, we begin the exciting adventure down the road to success.