How do you expand your comfort zone? Let’s look at some of the things in your past so that you can get clues about how to do what you already do well. Just being aware can help you in expanding your comfort zone!
Expand your comfort zone by adding things in that you do and can do. And as you do, allow your confidence to swell and grow.
Consider who in your life is, say, pleased and delighted with you.
Remember your interactions with those people.
And allow yourself to experience the confidence that you have the ability to interact with those people.
Consider who you’ve helped along your way as you were going through challenges.
Did you teach someone?
I mean, maybe you cross-country ski now and you taught someone how to do that.
Remember that experience of teaching someone.
And remember that experience of learning some skill. For example, you might play soccer.
You’ve been coached if you have been playing soccer. Maybe you’ve coached someone else who needed a boost in their skills.
Remember the good feeling of teaching someone a new skill.
Maybe you’ve been in business and succeeded and mentored someone.
Remember how it felt good to mentor someone and interact with their view of their problems and help them to see a way out of those problems, towards success.
Maybe you’ve taken someone who needed to go to the doctor and didn’t want to be alone facing bad news.
Remember the support that you gave that person and the confidence which that gave you to support other people.
Maybe there’s someone in your family that was struggling and you took them shopping and carried their bags back into their home.
Remember the good feeling of being helpful for someone who you care about. The interaction! The joy that you got from helping. That gives a different kind of confidence that permeates your entire being.
Maybe it’s a simple as you took somebody to lunch who needed a friend. And you listened to them. Maybe that gives you the confidence that you don’t always have to be the one who’s talking. You don’t always have to be the one who’s doing.
Sometimes it’s about listening.
And in listening, responding with a few words of encouragement in the areas that they need encouragement.
And perhaps silence.
In the areas that they need to let go of.