If you don’t want pain, don’t live life.
Now I’m not talking about stabbing yourself,
Or falling out of a window,
Or crashing through a door,
Or banging your head against the wall,
Having your friend punch you in the face, or touching a hotplate in the restaurant even though they told you not to do it.
I’m not talking about physical pain-I’m talking about emotional pain.
That’s right, emotional pain.
We hide from emotional pain. We think that emotional pain is too painful to even experience and we close down. We shut out the outside world, or we shut down our inside world to protect against annihilation.
A lot of you find it very painful to approach women. You try it once and you don’t like the way it feels so you don’t try it again.
You don’t like the feeling of rejection so you shut down and don’t do it ever and then you stay exactly where you are in life.
When you do that you don’t grow.
No pain, no gain.
Without pain you aren’t going to gain and this is true for every aspect of your life.
If you want to get better with women, you’ve got to go through the pain. You’ve got to go through the rejections. You’ve got to work the numbers. You’ve got to go out and talk. You’ve got to learn how to be a great communicator. You’ve got to do the work.
It’s not just going to magically change you by reading these words or listening to an audio program. You must actually go out there like a gladiator ready for a fight to the death, and you battle.
You’re not battling the women either-no. You’re battling your own fear of pain, and your goal is to destroy him each time.
You want to lose weight, it’s painful. You’ve got to stop eating the bread and drinking the beer and doing the things you normally do.
You want to gain some more muscle, you’ve got to go through the pain of lifting weights and feeling sore the next day. In life, if you don’t feel the pain, you don’t feel the gain.
Think about the pain you endured going to school to get that degree or the pain that you went through training for your job. It may have been difficult but you gained wisdom, and you’re gaining a sweet paycheck every week.
Are you ready to feel the pain necessary to gain beautiful, sexy, hot desirable women in your life?
Get out there and work.
No pain no gain, guys.