How to Develop Self Confidence: Five Emotional Barriers to Success (and How to Overcome Them!)

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The journey of learning how to develop self-confidence has been a life-long haul for me…

Of course, each one of us might have a crushed self-image for different reasons.

The purpose of this article is to help you identify what’s holding you back from a positive self-image, and what do you do to improve your self-respect while improving communication skills to achieve success in business.

So Let’s Dive into the Five Emotional Barriers to Success…

Emotional Barrier #1: Over sensitivity

Over sensitivity has been an increasing dilemma within our culture. Nowadays, people need to worry about whatever the heck they so to make sure that it’s “politically correct”, so as not to hurt anyone’s feelings.

If you’re looking into becoming a successful entrepreneur, developing a thick skin against being over-sensitive is at the top of the list!

No matter what you do, there will be people out there hating you! And, what about after you’ve finally made it to the top, then they’ll like you, right?


Then you’ll be getting even more haters breathing down your neck because they’re jealous of you!

Try to remember to feel good about your own accomplishments, and no matter what people say, reply with “I’ll take that as a compliment!”

Emotional Barrier #2: Over-Dependency

We start out as children getting gold stars for being good, watching our parents put up our pictures on the refrigerator, and receiving “performance trophies” for just about anything we set out to do.

Unfortunately, many of us carry that into adulthood. I hate to break this to you, but when you’re grown, you’ll probably be getting more negative feedback that positive!

People are basically into themselves, and nobody’s really thinking about what you’re doing. (This is why I always make it practice to do the housework when my husband is HOME LOL)! Even then, I rarely get a “thank you for vacuuming” as much as “that noise is bothering me can you start in the other room?”

Give yourself your gold stars for your accomplishments. It helps here to keep a success diary and write down every day something that you’ve accomplished and feel proud of. And, while you’re at it, find something to be grateful for each day as well. You’ll be surprised how that will change your outlook on life!

Emotional Barrier #3: Resentment

If there’s someone or something in your life that you resent, try to forgive.

Resentment, no matter how much YOU ACT AS IF EVERYTHING IS OK, can haunt you forever. It’s deep, it’s dark, it’s WAY DOWN THERE… and it will get you if you don’t forgive.

If it’s something that you can actually come to terms with, do it. If it’s something that’s in the past and literally impossible to physically reconcile, the try to let it go and forgive in your heart.

Emotional Barrier #4: Guilt

The solution to this is similar to number 3 – you simply need to forgive yourself here. And for some, this is easier said than done. I used to be the QUEEN OF GUILT until I realized that guilt is actually BELOW HATE on the emotional scale. (If you’re familiar with Rhonda Byrne’s “The Secret”, then you realize that each emotion emanates a frequency which attracts good or bad things coming our way.)

Of course, feelings of guilt have their place in that, hopefully, these feelings will keep you from making the same mistake. However, obviously, guilt feelings, if harbored for long, can really keep you from experiencing the abundance you deserve.

Remember, if you feel like you don’t deserve abundance, IT WILL NEVER COME YOUR WAY!

The solution for getting over guilt is to look at yourself with kind eyes. Recognize that you’re only human, and humans make mistakes. Although you might have made a mistake in the past, recognize that it IS in the past, and move on.

And last by not least, Emotional Barrier #5: Fear

Think of it as “False Emotions Appearing Real, because in all actuality, fear is really only an emotion, and there does not exist.

Yet people tend to habitually let fear get in the way of success. A new bride might lose her husband because she’s always worried about a roaming eye should he need to come home late from work.

And, if your business involves sales of any kind – FEAR CAN REALLY HOLD YOU BACK FROM SUCCESS!

You should call your new customer, but you’re afraid of how you’ll sound. You should make that video, but you’re afraid of getting in front of a camera. You should call your leads, but you’re afraid of blowing the possibility of a sale. So you convince yourself, “He’ll be more likely to buy if I just stay out of the way.”


So how can you overcome fear? While grated, this does involve getting out of your comfort zone to some extent, I’ve actually found a way to “trick my brain” into thinking more like a courageous leader.

You might have heard, “it’s not what you know but who you know” right? Well, there’s more to it that knowing friends who help you in business. If you look around you’ll see that successful people tend to “rub off” on each other, and they assimilate each other’s mindset. A successful mindset breeds a successful person.