An adolescent’;s inner life often resembles a bit like being in a command performance of an improvised play. Intense. Urgent. A work in progress out there for all to see. Teens are living expressions of the change process, with all its upheaval and uncertainty and sense of potential. Because their development involves so much of the tension inherent to all life transitions, teens have a heightened need for a dynamic balance between stability and flexibility from the people and world around them, which makes them completely vulnerable when faced with loss. This article describes tools and techniques that help teens face and work through difficult emotions, develop healthy relationship skills, and enhance their resilience to negative effects of stress, using examples of two programs that serve the psychological, social and emotional needs of adolescent.
"Because they are already experiencing a shaky sense of self, grief and loss creates different challenges for teens than for any other age group," states Laraine Gordon, LCSW, an actress and social worker who founded and directs Time For Teens, a not- for-profit organization based in Southampton, NY that offers a bereavement camp in the summer and creative workshops throughout the year, specifically designed for adolescents. The therapy groups that take up 2 1/2 hours each morning of the camp focus on connection through creativity. Improvisation exercises that are fun and engaging allow the teens to share aspects of themselves in a safe and structured way, which very quickly forges bonds as they discover the commonalities that they share beyond the fact that all are dealing with significant losses.
The use of imagination and creative experiences to communicate the complexities of grief are especially effective with teens because the emotional immediacy matches their developmental needs, and these tools for self-awareness and self-expression are useful throughout the rest of their lives. Creativity is key, and the process is structured to sustain a flow of attention and energy, eg A morning warm-up began with an improvement game that emphasized recognition of things the teens had learned about one another the day before, followed by a breathing and meditation exercise.
The group members had been instructed to have their journals handy and begin to write when they felt ready. The directive was to write a letter to the person they had lost, or write about their feelings that day if the letter was too difficult. From this group went into role-plays in which each teen who chose to participate read their letter aloud, either to an empty chair facing them, to someone they chose to play the role of their lost loved one, or to the group. Sharing the letters lead to spontaneous role-plays, imagined conversations about regrets, fears, anger, confusion, and love.
Teens who gain the tools for managing grief and access to appropriate peer and adult relationships in which they can be themselves can learn to trust in the possibilities of life, a trust that is violated by loss too early in life. "Grief that is pushed down will surface now," Ms. Gordon explains, "and there is a direct correlation between acting out behaviors such as drinking and drug use and the loss of a loved one. psychodrama is an extremely helpful tool, because teens love to be dramatic and creative at the same time, and it does not feel so much like therapy to them. " And current research bears this out. A study published in the British Journal of Social Work found that engaging adolescents in an active, dynamic process of remembering and creatively constructing a relationship to the person they lost significantly contributed to identity development.
Social worker and singer / actress Staci Block uses improvisation with teens as an effective technique for creative communication about important issues as well as for development of a range of life skills with teens. She created and directs Reflections, a group of adolescent performers who present interactive shows on a range of social and educational issues, through the Division of Family Guidance in Bergen County, New Jersey. "The purpose of Reflections is two-fold," Staci states, "to raise issues with audiences on topics which are significant to adolescents, and to have the teens in the cast learn about themselves and the issues about which they present. is not a treatment program, and all the cast members are volunteers, the teens experience a process that is therapeutic and unique. " Role-playing helps teens develop empathy and the ability to see situations from others’; perspectives, which are relationship skills not always accessible through family.
These programs allow teens to be themselves, with all their complex and contradictory emotional needs, probing looks at the world they are getting ready to take on as adults, and struggle for independence mixed with desire for guidance. Both emphasize creative experiences and group connections to maximize the healing and learning potential for adolescents. Ms. Gordon believes that resilience is enhanced when we "give teens outlets where they can show individuality. Give them the ability to feel really good about themselves and to know that it is okay to laugh and have fun after a loss.
Creativity gives them the outlet that is not typically provided them in their daily lives. They can begin to recognize what they are passionate about, find another perspective about concepts or perceptions that they held about themselves. Through the improvised scenes, the teens get a crash course in role-training. Through the range of issues explored in Reflections’; presentations, the teens "experience situations that they may not have encountered in their lives. actually do if the situation were to occur. If the situation is something the teens has already experienced, the drama can help them maybe see it in a different way. "
Resiliency is a core psychological strength for coping with change, loss, and destabilizing events. Creative techniques that foster self-expression, self-awareness and supportive social networks strengthen resilience in ways that teens can continue apply to challenges over the course of their lives.